Suffering from attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a bit like sitting behind a plexiglass screen. 

During the pandemic, we are becoming more and more familiar with the acrylic glass panels that appear in banks, workplaces and even your local supermarket as Covid protection measures.

Until recently, these sheets have been scattered between every desk in my office. Human eyes can distinguish them, but they are clear and harmless and easy to forget. When I picked up my water, or rushed it over someone's table, I found myself bumping into them violently, thinking deeply about what to buy for lunch.

Although I knew that the bed sheet was there, I continued to chisel, needle, and hit it, which annoyed the people around me. It feels like a perfect metaphor for neurological diseases like ADHD, which is usually imperceptible to untrained eyes, but for me it is a clear and obvious gap that makes me a little out of reach .

October is ADHD Awareness Month, as the name suggests. At the end of last year, at the age of 29, I was diagnosed with ADHD, a comprehensive type. This means that I experienced impulsivity and hyperactivity, called neurotypical, and inattention characteristics that are usually recorded by people without the disease.

Like many people who were diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, I spent more time worrying about what people would think of me—and how they thought of me—because I later discovered that I had the disease.

Given the introspective nature of ADHD and how bad the outside world is about it, my current reaction does not seem surprising. When I recalled the way I behaved that confused my partners and angry bystanders, it took me a few days to wince. Now I know better, I recalled carefully that someone told me that I spoke too loudly because I didn’t handle my volume correctly, or because Shakespeare was mocked for a date about a person who ghosted me afterwards because I had a strong The rejection of sensitivity and irritability.

I know that compared with patients with early-onset dementia, I have a lack of working memory, which arouses the anger of friends and family. They don’t understand why I forget my birthday, put down my bath mat or lose more mobile phones every year. moon.

It is easy to make ADHD sound interesting or irrelevant, but it is true. When you can't control your impulse, everyone will hear a story about when you danced all night, when you told some horror stories, or over-shared in front of your partner's mother. For me, it's like having a battery pack in my chest, and when I feel I don't have any juice left, it will inspire me, throw out any ideas, holidays or new adventures to keep dopamine going.

We want neurotypical people to understand ADHD

"A little-known fact about ADHD helped me understand that the voice in my mind telling me to "do this" is not actually part of ADHD. This comes from an authority figure who told you to apply yourself when you were a child, and it boils down to trauma Children with ADHD hear 20,000 more negative, critical, or corrective messages from authority figures than their neurotic peers."-Matt Clements, 30, Brighton

"Your brain is connected in a different way. My thoughts, feelings and processing are very different from those of neurotic people. If I knew that when I was young, I might have saved a lot of heartache and stress."-Lucy Rogers, 27 years old, Mersham

“ADHD doesn’t just affect young boys who can’t sit still in class! When I first told some people that I had ADHD, my comment was “Oh, everyone is forgetful” or “Oh, I talk a lot, and also Can’t sit still" or "This is mother’s brain." People seem to be surprised that you will develop ADHD as an adult — they think it’s your growing up — not a neurological disease,”-Hester Granger, 43 years old, Reading

"Even the name ADHD is now completely outdated-experts now know that this is not attention deficit, but inconsistent attention. Attention is only part of it"-Ally Dowsing-Reynolds, 41 years old, Leeds

"Although everyone is struggling for what we do at some point... Our situation is an extreme version of these challenges. In essence, we are crossing the fog every day. Too tired "——Andrea Zara, North London

"Growing up with dyslexia and undiagnosed ADHD because I did not perform well in school, struggled at work, and knew that it was not a reflection of my intelligence, it was actually ADHD, which meant that I could find adaptations. The method of this situation is designed for people with neurological diversity, not for neurotypical people. Since then, I have been the happiest person"-Lucy Rogers, 27 years old, Reading

But when I sat down for a diagnosis for a while, I thought more about how this situation affected me, rather than others.

The mask slipped and the editing room filtered out more painful memories. I remembered when I was holding onto a brick in a corner of the elementary school playground, tearing down my face because I felt overloaded. I remembered how many times someone I trusted told me that I was stupid, lazy, and worthless because I confused a word or forgot to write something and came to the worst conclusion. I remembered the doctor who laughed at me when I was a teenager and told him that I was worried about having ADHD. He told me that women didn't understand.

"My brain works very fast. My mind moves fast like lightning, and connects with connections that others might miss. It adds color and interest, and enhances my passion, determination, enthusiasm, wisdom, and originality. Sex and creativity. I can be quite fierce sometimes, but I like it. I now admire me as a woman who is engrossed"-Ally Dowsing-Reynolds, 41 years old, Leeds

"As a writer, ADHD is very helpful to me because I often play internally with puns, word games, and thinking about new ideas. I have found that if you can balance your neurodiversity, you can fight neurotypicals. Is in a good position." – Alexander Murphy, 26 years old, Beverly

"I am very empathetic, which is very helpful to my work as an English teacher and annual head. I am very good at my job, and I have worked very hard to say this. I can tell my students Express kindness and sympathy with colleagues. This may mean that I find it harder to set boundaries to make sure I don’t carry other people’s emotional baggage, or to focus on situations that don’t need to be considered so much," – Issy L

I think the worst part of ADHD is really bad, and even antidepressants don't help. I can't tell anyone that I am so sad and tired, I can't even move my fingers, letting the day disappear into the night without closing the curtains. I was drawn to this dark inner world, a loud and roaring worst clip that kept me awake for weeks.

"There are many ways ADHD affects me. It's really difficult to pay attention to details-I often skim some content to understand the main points rather than the actual details, which can cause problems.

I often "just" finish work on time, which is really stressful-I will work hard before the deadline, but it can be exhausting. I have tried lists, planners, setting alarms, etc., but I often forget to check them"-Hester Grainger, 43, Reading

"My irregular emotions and concentration are related to my dopamine levels. Knowing this, it may develop healthier coping strategies faster"-Andrea Zara, North London  

"When it comes to'criticism', I personally and professionally appreciate feedback, but if it is unexpected, it will hit me harder than I want, and I will try to overcome the rejection it provokes. Sense"-Issy L

"I'm easily distracted in conversations in high-stimulus areas, such as in the city center, shops, etc.

"When the surrounding noise, visual effects, and general discomfort (clothes, seats, etc.) are over-stimulated, it is difficult for people with divergent nerves to keep their attention. If the neurotypical people want our potential to shine, then work with us, Listen to our voices and finally understand us. We don’t say these nonsense to attract attention, we want less attention so that we can continue to do things." – Matt Clements, 30, Brighton

From the people I have talked to with ADHD patients, I began to understand that this place of introspection and isolation is the common feeling between us. This sense of loneliness fosters a wonderful, mutually supportive community of people who manage this disease.

Advice for people with ADHD

"I support the effect of protein on our ADHD patients. A high-protein breakfast can have a huge impact on our attention and attention levels throughout the day"-Allie Dawsin-Reynolds, 41 years old, Leeds 

"Many people with ADHD find it difficult to maintain a healthy schedule-when I refuse to exercise or stick to a healthy diet, I know that it prevents me from hurting myself mentally. I only do what I like, as long as I can .If I miss a day or a few days, it’s okay,-Lucy Rogers, 27 years old, Mertham

"ADHD is a range, and everyone can fall into it to some extent. High concentration is like a kind of superpower to some extent. If you can find a good middle ground by using coping mechanisms, you can Use this "obstacle" to succeed"-Alexander Murphy, 26 years old, Beverly

Apart from the medications and treatments that make life easier for me and many people with ADHD, seeking support is the most important thing. When the outside world couldn’t understand why you were so concerned about Deidre Barlow’s best look on Coronation Street, or why you were still so angry at the comment made by a guy on the bus that morning, ADHDs stepped in and took advantage of Their infinite creativity, compassion and empathy fill the gaps.

Although I don't want people without ADHD to fully understand what it feels like to have it, I want you to trust those who say they do. After all, they may be like me, and there are many others who have shared their views on this article, and 75% of adults are struggling with undiagnosed ADHD because they trust critics rather than their instincts.

Additude, a website dedicated to ADHD thinking

Insragam pages, such as ADHD memetic therapy for laughter, mini ADHD coaches for understanding, I’m following ADHD promotion

AADDUK Adult ADHD website

Women with ADHD in the UK Facebook page of women with the disease

ADHD in smart-ass women An international Facebook page for women with ADHD

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